When was the last time you said or heard someone say to another (or you), “I DISAGREE” or “I COMPLETELY disagree” and with a tone that most certainly implies: You’re wrong, and I’m right. You’re an idiot, I’m smart. Sound familiar?
Some years ago this idea was pointed out to me by someone I greatly respect because I was doing just that. I had never realized what a terribly negative, thoughtless thing that was to say. He suggested that a much better approach was to simply say something along the lines of, “I have a different opinion or view.” Or, “I think I understand what you’re saying but I see things differently.”
Can you see how that slight adjustment in your language could change the course of the conversation? Unless, of course, your underlying motivation is actually to be, uh… critical?
I can tell you in all honesty that since that day, I have not uttered the words, “I disagree” to anyone. So I guess I’m just being the change I want to see. And maybe a few of you might think twice the next time you feel the urge to say those words yourself.
Do you agree with this? Or do you have another opinion?
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